It's 2017. The end of one year and the beginning of the next tends to make us reflect on what we've done, what we want to do and what we wish to change in the coming year, perhaps even moreso this year with all the deaths that were reported and the intensity of feelings that were aroused during the election. We make resolutions, join gyms, try a new program, maybe promise to de-clutter our house, or perhaps be more kind to ourselves and others. Whatever it is that we are pondering, I feel that the most important thing to do is not see all these things as something that we must do or else. Why is that? Because then we are only setting ourselves up to get frustrated or dissappointed somewhere along the way. Instead of seeing whatever it is as something that is an extra burden, see it as a chance to grow, to learn, to embrace yourself and practice more understanding and compassion of who you are here and now.
In looking for images to use for this blog, I immediately stopped when I saw this one. Why? Because it is addressing a fundamental issue that many people have in life. They BELIEVE they are not worthy, they are ugly, they are not perfect, they must change who they are or else. They tear themselves down even in the midst of trying to change something in their lives for the better. "I didn't do that extra set, I failed. I didn't follow my goals to the letter, I may as well give up now. I didn't lose a pound today, I bought something I didn't need." Whatever it is, when they have a "setback" they let it sink into their already firmly held belief that they are going to mess this up no matter what and, as a result, further reinforce that they will never achieve whatever goal they have.
Perhaps, instead of seeing what you believe, allow yourself to believe what you see. See that you have started the journey, focus on the journey and what it can bring into your life, not the end goal that you have set. Instead of just going to the gym for 30 mins or an hour, doing your work out, talking to no one there and going right back home, say hi to someone, or instead of going to the gym, go do a workout outside or make something up for you to do that's different. If you find yourself dreading the same workout, give yourself permission to do something new that day. Take a class instead of doing another circuit day. Take a hike in a park and play on playground equipment, why not? It's there. You can use it, no one will stop you. See what that brings into your life. Reach out to others that may have also started a new journey, team up and chat with them. Allow your desire to change one thing in your life to change something else too.
We humans are very fond of constructing boxes for us to live in, mental ones, emotional ones, physical ones. We all do it, but life inside a box gets dull. Don't let your resolutions box you in, let them help you grow. Take a risk, do something new, even if it is just talking to a complete stranger somehow, you never know what that might bring into your life.
Self improvement is hard, there is no denying that, I am the worst at sticking to goals, I will fully admit it. Going into a new year dreading what you want to improve wil not help you improve, nor will it make you feel any better. Find ways to make what you wish to improve upon reward your soul and your spirit. The physical links to the mental which ties into the emotional. If you hate whatever you are doing to improve one, or all of those things, you will not improve and will quite possibly make things worse.
You can make resolutions all year, but until allow yourself to believe in what it is you are doing, you will be looking back at 2017 with the same frustration that you may be lookng back at 2016.
Let your life be mysterious again, be fun again, be free again in some small, or big, way and that will allow you to grow, to change and to truly be you.
Kat is a LMT in AZ with close to a half decade of experience. She likes to talk to ppl about their health, make them feel better and get them to realize they have so much power to control their own health. Snarky yet informative, that's Kat in a nutshell. She's also available for personalized, targeted therapeutic massages, please see the scheduling page if you live in the Phoenix AZ area.